“Even When It Hurts” (An adoption story – learning to trust God’s will)

1 Corinthians 2:9 – “What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love him…”

This verse takes me back to a church service a few weeks back where the message’s theme centered around the need to focus on desiring Christ’s presence in our lives. You see – about 3.5 years ago, my husband and I began trying to conceive our first child – after over a year of failed attempts, month after month, we began exploring other options. Eventually, after coming to the option of adoption- our conversations came to sudden hault. It was as if we both knew this was the path for us yet we were so uncertain about it that neither one of us was really jumping for the reigns to take charge. We had countless discussions surrounding IVF, IUI, surgeries, and more – and each and every time we landed back at adoption.

Life got stressful. Things didn’t seem to be falling in place and and it really seemed like we were going to hit rock bottom.

One day – after the dust had settled – and a church service message relayed the thought about following God’s plan for your life and allowing him to control – we surrendered our hearts to the calling of adoption and began to research the process.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your way’s acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.”

I sang a song in church called “even when it hurts” by Hillsong – the lyrics go like this:

Take this fainted heart
Take these tainted hands
Wash me in your love
Come like grace again

Even when my strength is lost
I’ll praise you
Even when I have no song
I’ll praise you
Even when it’s hard to find the words
Louder then I’ll sing your praise

I will only sing your praise

Take this mountain weight
Take these ocean tears
Hold me through the trial
Come like hope again

Even when the fight seems lost
I’ll praise you
Even when it hurts like hell
I’ll praise you
Even when it makes no sense to sing
Louder then I’ll sing your praise

I will only sing your praise
I will only sing your praise
I will only sing your praise
I will only sing your praise

And my heart burns only for you
You are all you are all I want
And my soul waits only for you
And I will sing till the morning has come

Lord my heart burns only for you
You are all you are all I want
And my soul waits only for you
And I will sing till the miracle comes

I will only sing your praise
I will only sing your praise
I will only sing your praise

Even when the morning comes
I’ll praise you
Even when the fight is won
I’ll praise you
Even when my time on earth is done
Louder then I’ll sing your praise

I will only sing your praise

I rehearsed this song in the car over and over again – often with my eyes closed as to keep myself from crying. “God, I am at the end of the road – please take this where we need to go” – I prayed on repeat for what seemed like ages.

This song became my anthem – no matter how long or hard this journey has been – I will sing your praise. I will keep fighting for your presence. This was October 2016 – We had been anxiously waiting for an adoption match for over 9 months and had been waiting over 2 years for that precious baby in our family.

About 2 weeks later – after leading this song in church – we got that phone call – a birth mother had requested to speak with us.

My emotions were going haywire and I had no idea how to proceed in this uncharted territory – but that was it. We were matched.

I had no idea that those conversations so early on would set our family on such a miraculous journey but I am so glad it did.  The sermon I mentioned at the very beginning of this post reflected on the idea of needing to focus on desiring Christ’s presence in our lives.

I am here to tell you that the journey of infertility can be long and the journey through adoption can be long – lifelong!  However, if that is you, and you are navigating this part of your life. Know there are people to speak to, know you are not alone, draw closer to our heavenly father and ask for him to take charge.

Even when the fight seems lost
I’ll praise you
Even when it hurts like hell
I’ll praise you
Even when it makes no sense to sing
Louder then I’ll sing your praise.

-xoxo

 

 

 

Spring Cleaning Challenge – Essential Oils

Alright – so lots of you asked for information on how to use essential oils around the house. I am participating in a “SPRING CLEANING CHALLENGE” – and I thought I would share how it goes with you!

In 1976, Congress passed the Toxic Substance Control Act which grandfather in between 63,000 – 100,000 chemicals that were on the market. These chemicals were grandfathered in, without any testing, and are simply unregulated. Today, only about 50% of the chemicals on the market have been subject to any chemical testing at all. Under this act, manufacturers are protected by trade secret laws, so that they do not even have to post what ingredients are in their products. If you go look at a bottle of household cleaner, you may be surprised to see that they only list a small percentage of the ingredients in the bottle.
There are so many ingredients to be aware of due to carcinogenic properties: Alcohol, Aluminum, DEA/TEA, Propylene Glycol, Sodium Lauryl Sulfate, TALC, Parabens and more. These are found in so many common household products and should be avoided as much as possible for more healthful alternatives.
“Fun Facts”
– Quality of air inside homes is 5-7 times more toxic than outdoor air quality.
– It takes 26 seconds for chemicals in your personal products to enter your bloodstream.
– Consumer Householding Cleaning Product Sales was over $7.3 Billion in 2007
– Thanks to consumer awareness, the sales growth is slowing down! – This could be due to the push in chemical free cleaning, and DIY, natural cleaning, like Essential Oils!
Scary, huh?

Don’t worry! We are going to show you how to replace household conventional cleaning products with scary ingredient lists with DIY, natural, products, using essential oils!
Join me, won’t you, in replacing this toxic crap little by little, month by month, step by step – either with ready-made YL products or with things we can make ourselves with oils. Things that are not only NOT HARMFUL for our babies, but BENEFICIAL FOR THEM. We have that option!

Come on, y’all. Instead of $100 at Target on things that poison our families, let’s spend that money on good things that we know is right for our tiny people!

Our team had an idea to encourage each other to get our homes in tip-top condition this Spring… Naturally, we will be doing it completely toxin free. I can’t wait to share with you all.

Here’s what I’ll be using for the challenge:

Thieves Household Cleaner (stocking up – we use this ALOT!)
Lemon Essential Oil
Purification Essential Oil
Rubbing Alcohol
White Vinegar
Baking Soda
Castille Soap
Glass/Stainless Spray Bottles
Your favorite YL Oils to diffuse!
Thieves Laundry Soap
Wool Dryer Balls & Lavender

Let’s do this, people!

Interested in joining the challenge? Shoot me an email at Happyoilerhaines@gmail.com and I will get you started!

I will post the updates as they come here:

 

(stay tuned!)

 

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Christmas Morning Every Month

Getting an essential rewards delivery is like Christmas morning once a month!!! 

Today I got my February essential rewards order in the mail!!!  Here is what came inside: 

Mirah Shave Oil- for the husband! He loves the oils and a smooth shave! 

Deep Relief- for the husband!  Soothing for those achy muscles after a good lifting session! 
Breathe again- also for the husband (anyone sensing a theme here?! 😉)  for the respiratory support especially as we head into spring! 

Shampoo and conditioner – my favorites! Keeps my hair bright and shiny!! 

Dog shampoo- for the pups! They break out in hives from any commercial brands! 

Deodorant and soap- because why stop at shampoo?!

A few of my favorite oils but the one I am most excited for………the holy grail of all essential oils…………. 
Rose.  Did you know rose oil has one of the highest frequencies available? Rose is the end all be all of oils and I am so excited to have my hands on it!!! Stay tuned for more benefits on rose oil! 

 

What is the Premium Starter Kit?

The Premium Starter kit is the bread & butter of Young Living!! If you haven’t heard, the Premium Starter Kit of “PSK” is the ABSOLUTE BEST way to get started! It is how I got started and so many of the wonderful ladies/families in my oily world! I recommend it to EVERYONE! Here is the deal:

  • It includes an AMAZING diffuser, which used ultrasonic technology to disperse millions of particles into the air, which is similar to a humidifier but this one is specifically designed for essential oils.
  • The Kit comes with 11 Essential Oils — YES! 11 OILS!
  • The Kit also comes with:
    • sample packets of a few essential oil to take with you or share
    • samples of Ningxia Red – dietary supplement
    • literature and a resource guide on how to dive into your oils.

The best part?! Its $160.00 for the kit with The Dew Drop Diffuser. The oils in the kit alone are worth $183.00 retail value?! So you are essentially getting the diffuser for free! Just one of the amazing reasons Young Living is incredible!

If you are ready to get going, go ahead and either message me at happyoilerhaines@gmail.com or you can visit here to walk through the steps of signing up for your kit!

Here are the 11 oils and what we use them for:

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THIEVES- the healthy-keeper. It helps kill airborne duckies, boosts immunity, makes our digestive systems work their best, and is just the greatest.

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PURIFICATION- gets rid of bad odors and airborne germs, feels amazing rubbed on the outside of your throat. I love it in our laundry and on Toms or any shoes with leather inserts!

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COPAIBA – supports body’s response to injury/irritations. Is a driving oil (enhances other oils!), regulates natural immune responses, can be soothing, promotes youthful appearance from the inside out.

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FRANKINCENSE – Incredible for my skin and immune system, eases occasional and minor tension/anxiety, promotes feelings of calmness and balance (was given to baby Jesus as a gift, so cool!)

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RC – contains 3 different kinds of eucalyptus which have naturally occurring eucalyptus (really awesome!), inspires and uplifts before working out, creates a comforting environment.

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DIGIZE- supports a super healthy digestive system, alleviates nausea and upset/sour stomach. It is great for occasional irregularity or upset tummies, relief from occasional heartburn.

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LEMON- naturally highlights hair, maintains energy levels, helps oily skin, calluses, cellulite, detoxing your body, THE WORKS!

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STRESS AWAY- my favorite! exactly what it says- I roll it onto my wrists and the back of my neck anytime I need.

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PEPPERMINT- helps me enjoy springtime outdoors. Soothes occasional head tension, supports digestive system (one of my go to oils for a sensitive tummy), promotes proper nasal and respiratory function. Love it!

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PANAWAY- so many types of relief with this one! helps with occasional head discomfort, everyday join and muscle soreness, and that “time o’ month” cramp business.. yuck.

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LAVENDER- the “swiss Army knife” of essential oils. We use it for enjoying the outdoors. It is great for relaxation, sleepy cream, a calm environment for the kids, and dry/chapped/irritated or burned skin.

Again- you can get your kit here:Purchasing a PSK

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(**if one of these oils mentioned above goes out of stock due to seasonal constraints or massive popularity, Young Living will substitute “flex oils” in. The oils are Citrus Fresh, Lemongrass, Orange, Tea Tree and Aroma Ease. This means you will get your kit in a normal time frame and not be kept waiting 🙂 **)

Again- you can get your kit here: I’m ready for my PSK!

-xoxo Chelsea

 

Welcome!

Hello! Welcome to “Project Influence”!  My name is Chelsea – I am an adoptive mom, a full time working mom, a woman after God’s heart and an avid essential oiler. I started my adult years with one very clear picture of what my life was going to look like and boy was I wrong. I mean, I got some of it right – the “themes” and such – but just about every specific element went “wrong”. And you know what? It’s all turning out perfect. There is this thing about God knowing what your heart needs and supplying you with what you need to get there. Ultimately, I’m type A,  Enneagram 1 (if you follow that..), and a control freak – so Jesus met where I was most stubborn and got my attention the hard way. This blog is meant to be an outlet, a safe place and a source for inspiration for others. My writing comes with YOU in mind. Written by a young woman going through the normal journey of life.. the same as each of you…. My goal is to provide encouragement and hope to all that wish to pursue their goals and dreams. A safe place to think, “hmm… I can relate to that” or “I’m glad I’m not alone.”  Most people describe me as “intense” – so if you are looking for the easy read, the “feel good” stories and the fluff – this isn’t it. If you are looking for a real, no-nonsense, no drama, doesn’t like small talk, hot mess mama that has outbursts, makes mistakes, wears a top knot bun to work, closes her eyes and just goes for it – look no further- together, you and I can take this world by storm. Ready to get started?

Oh and PS – if something I write helps you out or really gets the feels going – I’d love to hear from you!