Starting the Path to Adoption

First..CONGRATULATIONS! Adoption is such an amazingly beautiful path in life and my journey to adoption expanded my life’s horizon in more ways than I ever thought possible. Congratulations to you and all the very best wishes on your journey.

I remember when I first started the ‘internet research’ at the very beginning. I very quickly became overwhelmed with all the different internet jargon, abbreviations, types of agencies, adoption laws, etc. Too much too fast and I just wished I knew someone who could spell it out just a little bit clearer. Well.. now that I have had the chance to make mistakes through our journey – and believe me we have… I thought why not pay it forward and put together the information I’ve learned. It may just help others out too. So here it goes:

Disclaimer: I am not a licensed professional, nor a licensed adoption planner – just an adoptive mom sharing her journey. Please make decisions as they suit your individual family. 

Step 1: Discuss your Adoption Path.

Adoption can look so different for every family and every child. Are you looking to adopt an older child? Are you looking to adopt a newborn? Girl or boy? Do you have any other preferences that come to mind? Domestic adoption or International? Jot these things down as they will become very important to selecting the right avenue for adoption.

Step 2:  Searching for the right Avenue. 

There are a few various avenues for adoption. Our adoption journey was Domestic – which is where my strong suit lies. When it comes to Domestic Adoption, these are the major 5 avenues that come to mind and a brief explanation of what each one is:

Consultants – Consultants are independent business entities that are in the business of consulting with prospective adoptive parents to help them get the word out, profiles made etc. They can often connect you to various agencies and can on occasion help maximize your outreach/footprint. Consultants primarily focus on the prospective adoption parents providing a guided process but do not handle birth parent(s) support nor the legal side of adoption finalization. You will likely need a separate adoption attorney.
Facilitators –  An Adoption Facilitator is an independent business entity that is in the business of matching prospective adoptive parent(s) with birth parent(s) who have decided to place their child for adoption. Facilitators often work with birth parent(s) directly and provide additional support services for the birth parent(s) during and sometimes after the adoption. They “facilitate” the connection but do not handle the legal side of adoption finalization.  You will likely need a separate adoption attorney. You can see a registry of facilitators here: www.childsworld.ca.gov/PG1701.htm
Licensed Agencies – Agencies are licensed by the state where they operate, usually by a state Department of Health & Human Services. They are licensed to carry out both matching and the legal side of the adoption finalization. You may or may not get the individual support for yourself or the birth parent(s) depending on the agency.
Foster to Adopt – “Children placed in foster care are coming from a crisis situation and one in which the birth parents are not choosing a placement. They have been removed by the government from the parents’ home for reasons that include abuse, neglect by a parent or a death of a parent. Some of these children have never experienced a stable, loving and secure family life.”- http://www.familybuilding.com/adoption/foster-parent-adoption/
https://www.adoptivefamilies.com/how-to-adopt/foster-care-adoption/adopting-from-foster-care/
Independent Adoption– “Private (or independentadoption is a procedure in which the birth parents select the adoptive parents and place the child directly with them. Custody is transferred directly between the parents, rather than through an agency.”  Most law offices for adoption attorneys can execute independent adoptions.  https://www.pactadopt.org/adoptive/services/placement/independent.html

As you can see there are many things to consider. Check our my other posts about our journey to follow along with what we avenues we took!

Take some time to think about these various options and then visit my posts about budgeting for your adoption and what to expect financially when getting started!

As our adoption journey continues – I will provide a detailed break down of what our costs looked like too!

Adoption Fundraising

Hello everyone,

First and foremost, we want to say Thank you to everyone for their overwhelming support in supporting our adoption plans. I have had a few recent questions from individuals wanting to know how they can support us and our journey- more than just a ‘like’ on Facebook. Well, to be completely honest, the biggest area of assistance needed as of now is networking and of course, financial. There are many costs involved with adoption including travel, time off work for interstate legal reasons, attorney fees, paperwork fees, and more! And this all before the normal costs of setting up a nursery for a baby. We know this is where God wants us to be and we are confident that things will line up in time, however, I wanted to put all the current fundraising platforms out there in one place…so here it is:

TAX DEDUCTIBLE PAY PAL DONATION: through our Youcaring fund site- you can find that here: 

https://www.youcaring.com/fundraiser-widget.aspx?frid=580982

SUPPORT OUR HOME BUSINESS – PURCHASE AN ESSENTIAL OILS STARTER KIT: 100%  proceeds from this home business are going straight to our adoption fund- we have already added $300.00 this month to our fund from sharing the oily love! You can find that link here:

What is the Premium Starter Kit?

Purchasing a PSK

if you would like more information – please reach out to Chelsea.

PERSONAL DONATIONS: some people have opted to handle donations with us directly – this is more than fine. Please let us know. 

SHARING: if a financial donation or a purchase is not your thing- please consider sharing our profile with your friends, family, church etc. You never know where our birth mother and baby might be. 

 

We feel so loved by the amount of support we have received thus far- but we aren’t at our goal yet… anything you can do will benefit our baby immensely.

-Matt and Chelsea

Our Adoption Profile- Matt & Chelsea

This is one of my absolute favorite posts- our adoption profile was quite the journey to completion and Matt and I had an absolute ball putting it together. We also had wonderful family and friends help us through discounts and man power to put together all the tiny details. I put some of the pages below! Also – if you are on the journey of making your own adoption profile book. Check out the other posts on “How To” and “Things to Remember” when making an adoption profile.

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<p><a href=”https://vimeo.com/172520965″>Adoption Video- Matt &amp; Chelsea</a> from <a href=”https://vimeo.com/user53791267″>Chelsea Haines</a> on <a href=”https://vimeo.com”>Vimeo</a&gt;.</p>

 

 

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We’re Adopting! Baby Haines TBA!

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Hello! First and foremost, Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for following along in support of our adoption journey. As many know, We have been faced with fertility struggles and after months of deliberation have felt called to the opportunity of growing our family through the domestic newborn adoption process. Although we have not located our little one just yet – we are more eager than ever to bring our sweet little babe home to a loving and warm family life. As we embark on this journey- we need to be prepared financially- and so we turn to our family, friends and community of loved ones should you find in your heart to support our endeavors monetarily. These funds will cover everything from the adoption services to travel fees, attorney and legal costs, as well as new supplies when we finally meet our child for the first time and work to bring them home. We greatly appreciate the overwhelming support of those around us and we cannot wait to introduce the world to little Baby Haines.

Thank you again for your consideration in helping us reach our goal.

If you would like to donate – you can do so here:

https://www.youcaring.com/fundraiser-widget.aspx?frid=580982

Additionally, you can purchase an essential oils starter kit here where all proceeds will go towards our adoption efforts.

I will keep updates of our journey below:

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<p><a href=”https://vimeo.com/172520965″>Adoption Video- Matt &amp; Chelsea</a> from <a href=”https://vimeo.com/user53791267″>Chelsea Haines</a> on <a href=”https://vimeo.com”>Vimeo</a&gt;.</p>

 

Posted on June 6, 2016 

Yesterday we announced to family and friends of our plans to grow our family through adoption. We are overwhelmed with the amount of support, the kind words, and encouragement that has been poured out in our direction in just a short 24 hours. Today we begin the phase of fundraising as well as the logistical process to get things underway. While our hopes are to move as quickly as possible- the financial task of bringing our little babe home is daunting. We hope to lean on fundraising to help our dream of adding to our family come true. If you would like to follow along with our journey- you can do so on Chelsea’s Blog or you can follow our updates below along with our fundraising campaign. Thank you again to everyone for your overwhelming support.

 

Posted on June 6, 2016 
We have our first contribution!!! We are officially on our way! Thank You Brenna!!
Posted on June 7, 2016 
Getting papers signed today!!! Once signed, the next step is financial preparation and logistics!! Here we go!
Posted on 06/07/2016
Contract is signed and as of today we are officially active with our agency! Now we tackle the logistics including fundraising, professional photos, profiles, and more!
 
Posted on 06/13/2016

It’s official! Our temporary profile is officially out in the world for birth mothers to view! Its crazy exciting that things are happening already- but that also means we need to get a move on our fundraising goals! Help us spread the word!

 

Posted on 06/16/2016
Our online profile is now active!!!! You can view it here: A Letter from Matt and Chelsea
Don’t forget to help bring our baby home with our adoption fund- Adoption Fund Donations
-Matt and Chelsea