New Year – accepting me for me…

Have you ever heard the phrase – “new year, new me” ? I think we all have, and to be completely honest – I don’t really like it. I mean, yah sure, I understand the concept of the new year resolutions and looking to better ourselves with the new year beginning, however, as I’ve been reflecting on the past year – I realized finally… I don’t want a new me. I want acceptance of the me that has always been. I want acceptance of me from myself but also from those around me.

Growing up, I remember being constantly worried about what other’s thought about me. Even in college when you are supposed to conquering the world and defining your own identity, I felt confident in who I was but was terrified of other’s acceptance. And you know what that leaves you with? Loneliness and the general perception from others that you are “stuck up” or “anti social” or any other words like that. But the truth? The truth was that I knew who I was and where I was going. I knew it so hard that I was afraid to let others know about it in the event they didn’t understand it or said something hurtful that it would derail me from that path.

In the end, I still got hurt from time to time and I also lived each day building up a defense system around me to keep trying to block others out. I wish, oh I WISH I could have told myself then that the ONLY person you can control is YOU! It doesn’t matter how high you build your walls, someone will find the need one day to try to tear you down. But you know what? If you stay true to YOU , nothing they say can tear you down! YOU have to whole heartedly know YOUR own heart so well and so deeply that when someone else tries to derail you – you don’t even budge. You just smile and thank them for their concern and then go on your own merry way. But friend? I’m here to tell you… don’t build up walls so high that you spend years of your life later working to flatten them and start over. No one can hold you back and no one can change who you really are but YOU. No one has permission to derail you unless YOU give it to them.

Of course, as with all things, easier said than done right? Well… sort of. You see, it depends on where you are at in life I think and how much practice you have. Confidence is like a muscle. Every day YOU deserve to prioritize yourself. YOU deserve self care and to love yourself. Even if that means you can only make ONE decision today to be better for YOU- then do it! Make that one choice, just one choice per day that is more in line with what your heart wants and needs. Eventually that one choice will become second nature and before you know it you will make two of these choice a day, then three, then four and so on. And as you start getting more practice and getting older, the perception from others matter less just naturally. As you get older your groups of friends get smaller, your personal values get highlighted and with each choice you make in the direction of your hearts calling, your life’s joy increases, circumstances change and the truth comes out.

Friend – YOU can do it. You DESERVE one choice a day in line with your hearts calling. So this year, I hope we are all less influenced by the “wishful thinking” of static new year’s “Resolutions”. I hope we are all learning that is ok not to want a whole NEW version of ourselves at the start of the new year but rather to be 100% and completely whole and ok with the self that we already are. I hope that this new year – we can all look at our true selves and say “new year? Time to accept me for me” and then work on that one choice a day. Build that muscle of confidence and truth and start working one day at a time on creating the joy and happiness we know we deserve.

We’re Adopting! Baby Haines TBA!

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Hello! First and foremost, Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for following along in support of our adoption journey. As many know, We have been faced with fertility struggles and after months of deliberation have felt called to the opportunity of growing our family through the domestic newborn adoption process. Although we have not located our little one just yet – we are more eager than ever to bring our sweet little babe home to a loving and warm family life. As we embark on this journey- we need to be prepared financially- and so we turn to our family, friends and community of loved ones should you find in your heart to support our endeavors monetarily. These funds will cover everything from the adoption services to travel fees, attorney and legal costs, as well as new supplies when we finally meet our child for the first time and work to bring them home. We greatly appreciate the overwhelming support of those around us and we cannot wait to introduce the world to little Baby Haines.

Thank you again for your consideration in helping us reach our goal.

If you would like to donate – you can do so here:

https://www.youcaring.com/fundraiser-widget.aspx?frid=580982

Additionally, you can purchase an essential oils starter kit here where all proceeds will go towards our adoption efforts.

I will keep updates of our journey below:

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<p><a href=”https://vimeo.com/172520965″>Adoption Video- Matt &amp; Chelsea</a> from <a href=”https://vimeo.com/user53791267″>Chelsea Haines</a> on <a href=”https://vimeo.com”>Vimeo</a&gt;.</p>

 

Posted on June 6, 2016 

Yesterday we announced to family and friends of our plans to grow our family through adoption. We are overwhelmed with the amount of support, the kind words, and encouragement that has been poured out in our direction in just a short 24 hours. Today we begin the phase of fundraising as well as the logistical process to get things underway. While our hopes are to move as quickly as possible- the financial task of bringing our little babe home is daunting. We hope to lean on fundraising to help our dream of adding to our family come true. If you would like to follow along with our journey- you can do so on Chelsea’s Blog or you can follow our updates below along with our fundraising campaign. Thank you again to everyone for your overwhelming support.

 

Posted on June 6, 2016 
We have our first contribution!!! We are officially on our way! Thank You Brenna!!
Posted on June 7, 2016 
Getting papers signed today!!! Once signed, the next step is financial preparation and logistics!! Here we go!
Posted on 06/07/2016
Contract is signed and as of today we are officially active with our agency! Now we tackle the logistics including fundraising, professional photos, profiles, and more!
 
Posted on 06/13/2016

It’s official! Our temporary profile is officially out in the world for birth mothers to view! Its crazy exciting that things are happening already- but that also means we need to get a move on our fundraising goals! Help us spread the word!

 

Posted on 06/16/2016
Our online profile is now active!!!! You can view it here: A Letter from Matt and Chelsea
Don’t forget to help bring our baby home with our adoption fund- Adoption Fund Donations
-Matt and Chelsea

 

 

Gluten Free on the Go

So.. if you have been following my posts- you might know that I recently switched my diet for health reasons to no soy, no dairy, no red meat and no gluten! For anyone that knows me – the gluten and dairy game is the WORST! I am the biggest bread and cheese or pasta advocate ever born. But alas, my body doesn’t agree with my heart 😦

In addition to the recipes I am personally cultivating for a gluten free life (check them out!) I also use the following alternatives to supplement my daily gluten free game – check them out if you need assistance or motivation switching to Gluten Free!

  1. The CrossRoads Baker– Gluten Free cooking demystified and perfected: Recipes here!
  2. The Love with Food Box Subscriptions – they ship junk free and gluten free snacks to your door once a month AND each box ordered donates a second box to a hungry child in the US! If you’d like 50% off your first box – use this link here!

Good luck!

Chelsea

Decisions: Day Two of #365morningmotivations

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Day Two of #365morningmotivations

(FOR THE OTHER DAYS OF MORNING MOTIVATIONS- SEE HERE )

Theme: Decisions.

For this motivation I am going to turn to these Young Living Essential Oils:

  • Stress Away – for those positive vibes we all desperately need.
  • Joy – self explanatory
  • Clarity – to help us see through the mucky waters and make choices
  • Highest Potential – for that little boost telling you to be your best.

Today I’ve got a couple drops of Stress Away in my diffuser and topically applied Joy and Highest Potential to my neck and  Clarity over my heart.

(REMEMBER: IF YOU NEED YOUR OWN OILS- YOU CAN GET YOUR STARTER KIT HERE OR IF YOU HAVE THEM AND YOU HAVE QUESTIONS ON USAGE CHECK OUT MY POST ON DIFFERENT WAYS TO USE OILS HERE. )

OK- So.. decisions. Decisions, Decisions, Decisions…. am I right? They are always there to be made and sometimes the fork in life that we are facing is hard!  Have you ever felt like the events in your life or the decisions you are needing to make seem harder than the lives of those around you?  I certainly felt that way for a long time and still do from time to time – I’m  human. However, I am writing this to remind you of these things:

  1. you are loved regardless
  2. make the decisions for you and only you
  3. we all handle stress in our own ways
  4. its ok.

“You are loved Regardless” – Hebrews 13:5 says “I will never leave nor will I forsake you”  Jesus explicitly tells us that we will never been given any challenge that we cannot handle. God loves you as do your family and friends. If you are faced with a tough decision or going through something rough in life – its OK to lean on those around you.

“Make the decisions for you and only you” – I am currently going through some tough decision making and a friend recently turned to me a said “there is no wrong answer as long as its best for you”.  I cannot tell you the kind of pressure those simple words lifted off of my shoulders. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have the goal of being a millionaire but your friend does. Your goals are your goals. Your decisions are your decisions. Choose whats best for you and those that care about you will get in line.

“We all handle stress in our own ways” –  Stress can have a big impact on our lives. But what we must realize is that sometimes it is OK to take a break. Realizing how stress creeps into our daily routines and taking action to reduce it can often have a big impact on the clarity we have on the decisions to be made. If you are faced with big choices- don’t stress- time will tell what the correct route is. Acknowledge your stress and take a walk, exercise, meditate, etc.

“Its OK” – that’s a simple one. It really truly is OK. Its OK to not know what the right choice is or to feel like you don’t know what you are doing. The truth is that no adult really does?! The biggest thing I learned stepping into the real world after graduating college is that adults are just giant children making things up as they go. Its OK – just do your best.

These four points bring me back to the quote above:

“Every Accomplishment Starts with the Decision to Try” 

What that accomplishment is or what that decision/trying looks like is up to you. The point is to get started. One foot in front of the other- one step at a time. It doesn’t matter how big or small those steps are – it just matters that you take a step forward. Nothing worth having is easy – and everything worth having is worth the fight.

Thoughts for the day: Yesterday we talked about Grit, small victories and how you were going to apply it to life. So for today – what decisions led to those small victories? What decisions can you make today that will help you get one step closer to your goals? What are you going to try?

Happy Day 2. 363 more to Go.

-Chelsea

 

Grit: passion, perseverance & stamina

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Day One of #365morningmotivations

(For the other days of morning motivations- see here )

Theme: GRIT.

I chose to start off this thread of morning motivations with a topic very near and dear to my heart. Chances are if you are on the internet searching for some type of daily motivation you may be facing a new chapter of life, a new opportunity, or new hopes and dreams and you are looking for something to harness your excitement and really channel your energy towards the future ahead. Adversely, you may also be facing new challenges, new disappointments, perhaps unexpected circumstances that are leaving you in a negative place and you are looking for those comforting words to pick up and tell you to keep going. That is my goal here – to provide those motivational words that we all need during so many various chapters in our lives.

Each and every one of us is faced with hopes and disappointments alike. You see, its not about what happens to us but how we choose to react to it. Every cell in our bodies is affected by the stresses and emotions we feel so it is important that we stay true to ourselves and really give our bodies the self healing they so desperately need.

For this motivation I am going to turn to these Young Living Essential Oils:

  • Stress Away – These days Stress Away is all I need to support a healthy mentality and it keeps me positive all day long!
  • Valor – hello courage! Whenever I feel like I need a helping hand- this is my go to.
  • Highest Potential – Every feel like you a need little boost to get through a tough day?

Today I am going to put a couple drops of Stress Away in my diffuser while getting ready and topically apply Valor and Highest Potential to my wrists and over my heart.

(Remember: If you need your own oils- you can get your starter kit here or if you have them and you have questions on usage check out my post on different ways to use oils here. )

So- now that we have our bodies taken care of – let’s get back to the motivation! Grit.

“Grit is passion and perseverance.” Have you ever wondered why we as humans have a tendency to shy away from risk? I believe it is due to the idea that risk may not be met with instant gratification in terms of results or maybe not the exact results we wanted. But what If you knew that that success you were searching for was out there if you just stepped outside of your comfort zone? Would you do it? It might be hard- and you really have to believe in yourself, but if you persevere through the hard parts- you can get there!

“Grit is Stamina” – Stamina is the ability to keep going no matter what. God tells us that he will never give us anything that we cannot handle. Life happens- but we would never know when ‘good’ things happened if we didn’t have the disappointments to compare things to.

“Grit is sticking with your future- day in and day out. for years” – keep trying and keep pushing but open yourself up to the process. Rome wasn’t built in a day and if you are trying to make a major change in life or break any habits make sure you understand that it will take work and grind every day for longer than 24 hours.

“Working Hard to make that future a reality- grit is living life like its a marathon not a sprint”.  Take things one step or one day at a time. Push yourself and dedicate yourself to small improvements every day. Don’t diminish the small victories. We all experience trials and tribulations; joys and triumphs in different ways. Allow yourself to experience the now and before you know it that goal will be a reality.

Thoughts for the day: What does Grit look like for your life? How are you going to apply it to your day today?  What small victories have you recently had while in pursuit of that goal that might have been overlooking?

Happy Day 1. 364 more to Go.

-Chelsea

 

 

 

 

Transition to Organic

I have decided to write this post to keep track of my journey moving to organic foods and other healthier food options. You see, recently I was told to remove gluten, dairy, soy and red meat from my diet altogether for medical reasons. My first question was the same as everyone else’s- what’s left to eat?  Honestly- at first- I was stumped. When you work full time and have a 45 minute drive home, how do you keep food in the house, get to the grocery store, cook real food at home and make sure it fits within your diet?!  I was certain there was no possibility I could do this.

Luckily- as I started pushing through the inevitable challenges of change I came across a few tricks:

  • Meal Prepping – for example: I buy twice as much fish at a time, prep it, marinate it in a Ziplock back and freeze it. This way I have pre-prepped fish at anytime. You can see one of my recipes here: Lemon Honey Garlic Salmon.
  • Fresh fruits and Veggies – believe it or not, if you eat the right foods, you will honestly be ok eating less. The real nutrients in the real foods fill you up and keep you full much easier and much longer than processed items. Not too mention, they are way better for you than those genetically modified/chemical filled food items. yuck!

But again you ask- how do you get all of this done every night? The truth is – I’m not perfect, and I have become quite fond of the app – DoorDash to deliver food to my hosue from local restaurants on those nights that I just don’t want to cook. However, on the flip side- I found that by buying the right foods and keeping them in my house on the regular – Its really not too hard to keep things quick and healthy at home.

One of my favorite tricks is using “Farm Fresh” organic food delivery service. We have two alternating packages- one of veggies and fruits and the other of just organic fruits to snack on, I also have them deliver my cage free eggs.

Every 2 weeks a box is dropped off at my doorstep in the middle of the night so I have fresh produce available for in my fridge without ever having to go to the grocery store. Its amazing. If you are interested in trying – you can use this promo code:

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Morning Start: My Essentials

Good Morning!

Today I am working my 9-5 day job from our Austin, Texas office. There is nothing like learning how to continue your normal daily routine while on the road. From finding new places to eat, exploring a new town, room service, and still having to go into the office each day- business travel is certainly a world of its own.

As many of my closest friends and family know- I have anxiety issues. So how do you learn you overcome the anxiety and handle business travel like a lady boss?! Well- I am absolutely not a doctor- but I will tell you the little things that have worked for me.

  1. Confidence- you are where you are for a reason. and you are doing what you are doing for a reason. Find that reason and hang on to it with all your might.
  2. Comfort – if at the end of the day – you feel like a movie, room service and a bubble bath in your hotel- do it! pamper yourself if you need to- and don’t be afraid to enjoy it.
  3. Routine- establish small items in your daily routine when you are home that you can easily carry with you when you travel- this will help make the adjustment seem easy!

Here is one of my favorite routine moments for the morning:

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Yup! That’s right a cup of coffee with a drop of cinnamon bark- LOVE IT! When I get that digestive support from the cinnamon I am a happy camper. However, essential oils can add support for emotional health as well – the smell reminds me of my routine at home- which makes the morning adjustment that much nicer.

What is your morning routine?

-xoxo Chelsea

ps: want to give my morning coffee routine a try? Check out the premium starter kit to get started with essential oils here!

 

 

Getting Started: A Career with Young Living

So.. Why Young Living? The following excerpt comes from the Young Living website itself. However, you can also find MY REASONS – here.

“Have you ever wanted to truly own your time—and your life? What if going to work every day was exciting and enjoyable, and you no longer had to wonder how you were going to pay the bills? Young Living’s generous compensation plan gives you the power to take control of your future and build a business that will change your life forever.

Being a Young Living member goes beyond simply building a thriving business, however. You will also enjoy extensive networking opportunities, exclusive hands-on experiences, and a strong sense of community. Some of the unique benefits of Young Living membership include:

Generous Compensation: Young Living offers an industry-leading compensation plan with generous commissions and bonuses. Compensation Plan Highlights (PDF)
Wholesale Pricing: Save 24 percent off retail pricing on Young Living products, and save even more money with exclusive specials and promotions every month.
Essential Rewards: As a member, you are eligible to enroll in the Essential Rewards program and earn as much as 20 percent off each order in Essential Rewards points.
Exclusive Experiences: Participate in unique events such as the Global Leadership Cruise and our annual International Grand Convention, and experience our Seed to Seal® process firsthand at farm harvests and plantings.
Community: Enjoy a close-knit community of support. In addition to your sponsor, the entire Young Living family is ready to assist and encourage you in your journey.
Education: Young Living provides ongoing health education opportunities through conventions, seminars, and newsletters to keep you informed and assist you in your wellness progress.
Recognition: As you expand your organization and advance toward the prestigious rank of Royal Crown Diamond, you will enjoy special recognition for your accomplishments and leadership!”
Become a member now by clicking  here and following the steps listed! Any questions- shoot me an email at happyoilerhaines@gmail.com or comment below!
Not interested in building a business yet? Enroll as a customer and receive our products at retail pricing with flexible monthly purchasing options- you can enroll as a customer here. Any questions- shoot me an email at happyoilerhaines@gmail.com or comment below!
-xoxo Chelsea

Essential Oils: A balanced life

Essential oils have also been used for thousands of years for cosmetic purposes, as well as for their spiritually and emotionally uplifting properties. Young Living has always been at the forefront of bringing this ancient tradition to modern users, introducing millions to a total mind/body wellness they may never have dreamed possible.

Primarily extracted through careful steam distillation but also through cold pressing, the purest essential oils are far more powerful than the botanicals from which they were extracted. Any time you hold a bottle of our powerful essential oils, you are holding nature’s pure essence. (www.youngliving.com)

Essential Oils bring support to:

  • inspiring a positive emotional state
  • enhancing physical wellness
  • purifying our homes around us
  • refining our skin
  • creating deep spiritual awareness

Young Living offers their Seed to Seal®process as their promise to you. This meticulous, five-step approach allows Young Living to deliver nature’s most potent and pure essential oils from the farms straight to your family.

From the time each seed is chosen to when the products deliver to your home, Young Living hand-picks the very best to ensure purity and safety for everyone. Young Living promises the most authentic essential oil experience—every time.

This unique approach sets us apart. Young Living oversees every step of production to ensure that you get pure essential oils and products you won’t find anywhere else. Learn more about the journey our oils take and our unparalleled process at SeedToSeal.com.

Learn more about why I chose Young Living here: