New Year – accepting me for me…

Have you ever heard the phrase – “new year, new me” ? I think we all have, and to be completely honest – I don’t really like it. I mean, yah sure, I understand the concept of the new year resolutions and looking to better ourselves with the new year beginning, however, as I’ve been reflecting on the past year – I realized finally… I don’t want a new me. I want acceptance of the me that has always been. I want acceptance of me from myself but also from those around me.

Growing up, I remember being constantly worried about what other’s thought about me. Even in college when you are supposed to conquering the world and defining your own identity, I felt confident in who I was but was terrified of other’s acceptance. And you know what that leaves you with? Loneliness and the general perception from others that you are “stuck up” or “anti social” or any other words like that. But the truth? The truth was that I knew who I was and where I was going. I knew it so hard that I was afraid to let others know about it in the event they didn’t understand it or said something hurtful that it would derail me from that path.

In the end, I still got hurt from time to time and I also lived each day building up a defense system around me to keep trying to block others out. I wish, oh I WISH I could have told myself then that the ONLY person you can control is YOU! It doesn’t matter how high you build your walls, someone will find the need one day to try to tear you down. But you know what? If you stay true to YOU , nothing they say can tear you down! YOU have to whole heartedly know YOUR own heart so well and so deeply that when someone else tries to derail you – you don’t even budge. You just smile and thank them for their concern and then go on your own merry way. But friend? I’m here to tell you… don’t build up walls so high that you spend years of your life later working to flatten them and start over. No one can hold you back and no one can change who you really are but YOU. No one has permission to derail you unless YOU give it to them.

Of course, as with all things, easier said than done right? Well… sort of. You see, it depends on where you are at in life I think and how much practice you have. Confidence is like a muscle. Every day YOU deserve to prioritize yourself. YOU deserve self care and to love yourself. Even if that means you can only make ONE decision today to be better for YOU- then do it! Make that one choice, just one choice per day that is more in line with what your heart wants and needs. Eventually that one choice will become second nature and before you know it you will make two of these choice a day, then three, then four and so on. And as you start getting more practice and getting older, the perception from others matter less just naturally. As you get older your groups of friends get smaller, your personal values get highlighted and with each choice you make in the direction of your hearts calling, your life’s joy increases, circumstances change and the truth comes out.

Friend – YOU can do it. You DESERVE one choice a day in line with your hearts calling. So this year, I hope we are all less influenced by the “wishful thinking” of static new year’s “Resolutions”. I hope we are all learning that is ok not to want a whole NEW version of ourselves at the start of the new year but rather to be 100% and completely whole and ok with the self that we already are. I hope that this new year – we can all look at our true selves and say “new year? Time to accept me for me” and then work on that one choice a day. Build that muscle of confidence and truth and start working one day at a time on creating the joy and happiness we know we deserve.

DIY: Roller Bottle Blends

One of my favorite ways to use my oils is through Roller Bottle Blends!  Here are some of my favorites. Get some glass roller bottles with the roller filaments – I get mine on Amazon – add 5-10 drops of each oil below, fill the rest of the bottle with your carrier oil. Throw is your purse and take ’em with you!

Check out more: DIY Recipes for Essential Oils

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MOTIVATION BLEND: black pepper, lime, orange, frankincense

ALLERGY TRIO: lavender, lemon, pepperming

LIFT UP &  CALM DOWN: sandalwood, cypress, ylang ylang, bergamot, black pepper

SLEEPY BLEND: lavender, cedarwood

LIQUID XANEX BLEND: lavender, stress away, patchouli

IMMUNO BLEND: thieves, RC, lemon

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Decisions: Day Two of #365morningmotivations

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Day Two of #365morningmotivations

(FOR THE OTHER DAYS OF MORNING MOTIVATIONS- SEE HERE )

Theme: Decisions.

For this motivation I am going to turn to these Young Living Essential Oils:

  • Stress Away – for those positive vibes we all desperately need.
  • Joy – self explanatory
  • Clarity – to help us see through the mucky waters and make choices
  • Highest Potential – for that little boost telling you to be your best.

Today I’ve got a couple drops of Stress Away in my diffuser and topically applied Joy and Highest Potential to my neck and  Clarity over my heart.

(REMEMBER: IF YOU NEED YOUR OWN OILS- YOU CAN GET YOUR STARTER KIT HERE OR IF YOU HAVE THEM AND YOU HAVE QUESTIONS ON USAGE CHECK OUT MY POST ON DIFFERENT WAYS TO USE OILS HERE. )

OK- So.. decisions. Decisions, Decisions, Decisions…. am I right? They are always there to be made and sometimes the fork in life that we are facing is hard!  Have you ever felt like the events in your life or the decisions you are needing to make seem harder than the lives of those around you?  I certainly felt that way for a long time and still do from time to time – I’m  human. However, I am writing this to remind you of these things:

  1. you are loved regardless
  2. make the decisions for you and only you
  3. we all handle stress in our own ways
  4. its ok.

“You are loved Regardless” – Hebrews 13:5 says “I will never leave nor will I forsake you”  Jesus explicitly tells us that we will never been given any challenge that we cannot handle. God loves you as do your family and friends. If you are faced with a tough decision or going through something rough in life – its OK to lean on those around you.

“Make the decisions for you and only you” – I am currently going through some tough decision making and a friend recently turned to me a said “there is no wrong answer as long as its best for you”.  I cannot tell you the kind of pressure those simple words lifted off of my shoulders. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have the goal of being a millionaire but your friend does. Your goals are your goals. Your decisions are your decisions. Choose whats best for you and those that care about you will get in line.

“We all handle stress in our own ways” –  Stress can have a big impact on our lives. But what we must realize is that sometimes it is OK to take a break. Realizing how stress creeps into our daily routines and taking action to reduce it can often have a big impact on the clarity we have on the decisions to be made. If you are faced with big choices- don’t stress- time will tell what the correct route is. Acknowledge your stress and take a walk, exercise, meditate, etc.

“Its OK” – that’s a simple one. It really truly is OK. Its OK to not know what the right choice is or to feel like you don’t know what you are doing. The truth is that no adult really does?! The biggest thing I learned stepping into the real world after graduating college is that adults are just giant children making things up as they go. Its OK – just do your best.

These four points bring me back to the quote above:

“Every Accomplishment Starts with the Decision to Try” 

What that accomplishment is or what that decision/trying looks like is up to you. The point is to get started. One foot in front of the other- one step at a time. It doesn’t matter how big or small those steps are – it just matters that you take a step forward. Nothing worth having is easy – and everything worth having is worth the fight.

Thoughts for the day: Yesterday we talked about Grit, small victories and how you were going to apply it to life. So for today – what decisions led to those small victories? What decisions can you make today that will help you get one step closer to your goals? What are you going to try?

Happy Day 2. 363 more to Go.

-Chelsea

 

Strength in Vulnerability

  
When you think of success- what do think of first? Money, time, family, a nice home, nice cars, vacations, etc? Those items may be what our society deems as evidence of success- but the true question is what defines success for you on an individual level? 

During my time in college as I was looking into the world of teaching so many times we came across the idea that all children are unique in terms of potential, ability and talents yet all are capable of success in their own measures. As we grow and mature as part of the society around us we loose sight of those very differences that outline what ‘success’ means to each of us individually. Now, don’t get me wrong, I personally find a lot of motivation in seeing what opportunities others have opened up for themselves and desiring to obtain that opportunity too- however- I only strive for those that I know will bring joy and happiness to my quality of life. My view on obtaining those opportunities is simple. We each have a unique set of skills and by implementing them to the best of our ability we can push life to the next level. 

But what if while you are reading this you are saying to yourself- yah sure- that’s great and all, but if I only had the time I would make the changes needed to get myself to the next level. I would challenge you to think do you really not have the time or do you simple have a fear of vulnerability? It’s a brash question- but one I ask myself daily when faced with any fork in life’s road. Do I really have an obstacle in my way or am I just afraid of the risks involved with making it happen.

Human kind feels a natural tendency of threat when we are placed in a vulnerable position. But not al vulnerability is bad- on occasion it might just be the very place you find your strength. Think about it- how many great leaders has our world known- how many of them got where they were through struggle, adversity, discomfort, unease? It is through these feelings and positions of vulnerability that great strength and clarity of what our hearts want can be found. 

If you find yourself stuck at a fork in the road- I challenge you to define your own personal successes and allow the position of vulnerability to provide clarity to your hearts desires and your inner strength. When we are weak, so are we strong. 

Tidbit: when I need an extra pick me up of strength and encouragement I like to diffuse valor, grounding and clarity- you can find more info on oils here

-Chelsea