Strength in Vulnerability

  
When you think of success- what do think of first? Money, time, family, a nice home, nice cars, vacations, etc? Those items may be what our society deems as evidence of success- but the true question is what defines success for you on an individual level? 

During my time in college as I was looking into the world of teaching so many times we came across the idea that all children are unique in terms of potential, ability and talents yet all are capable of success in their own measures. As we grow and mature as part of the society around us we loose sight of those very differences that outline what ‘success’ means to each of us individually. Now, don’t get me wrong, I personally find a lot of motivation in seeing what opportunities others have opened up for themselves and desiring to obtain that opportunity too- however- I only strive for those that I know will bring joy and happiness to my quality of life. My view on obtaining those opportunities is simple. We each have a unique set of skills and by implementing them to the best of our ability we can push life to the next level. 

But what if while you are reading this you are saying to yourself- yah sure- that’s great and all, but if I only had the time I would make the changes needed to get myself to the next level. I would challenge you to think do you really not have the time or do you simple have a fear of vulnerability? It’s a brash question- but one I ask myself daily when faced with any fork in life’s road. Do I really have an obstacle in my way or am I just afraid of the risks involved with making it happen.

Human kind feels a natural tendency of threat when we are placed in a vulnerable position. But not al vulnerability is bad- on occasion it might just be the very place you find your strength. Think about it- how many great leaders has our world known- how many of them got where they were through struggle, adversity, discomfort, unease? It is through these feelings and positions of vulnerability that great strength and clarity of what our hearts want can be found. 

If you find yourself stuck at a fork in the road- I challenge you to define your own personal successes and allow the position of vulnerability to provide clarity to your hearts desires and your inner strength. When we are weak, so are we strong. 

Tidbit: when I need an extra pick me up of strength and encouragement I like to diffuse valor, grounding and clarity- you can find more info on oils here

-Chelsea 

Choose Gratitude 

  
Today is a day for gratitude. I woke this morning with a calm heart,  rolling over  to see my husband still fast asleep. As I got up to make a coffee I remembered our hotel room had a patio that looked out over the ocean. I grabbed a robe from the closet- my cup of coffee- and my phone and headed or to the patio to relax for the first few moments of the day. 

Sounds nice right? 

It was- but let me let you in on a secret. I skipped a few steps. You see- I woke this morning with a calm heart but also a headache from having wine too late the night before. I rolled over and my husband was fast asleep taking up most of the bed. I got up to make a cup of coffee, put in too much water and the cup was too smal which resulted in spilled coffee all over the counter. I grabbed a robe and went out to patio and listened to all sorts of noises as I attempted to relax viewing the ocean for the first few moments of the day. 

Interesting comparison huh? Same story- same morning. One that approaches the day with a perspective that allows the nuances from each day dictate the mood of the morning and cause frustration and the other approaches the morning from a perspective that chooses gratitude and openness allowing emotional stability and grounding throughout the afternoon. 

The truth? Both stories are real. After I finished my coffee, my husband and I applied some valor essential oil for focus and headed down to the beach for early morning meditation. My focus for the morning was gratitude. Despite how things may seem- whether or not you are where you planned to be or if things are going your way- there are moments in life where we must choose gratitude above all. If I were to tell you my life today is perfect- that would be far from true. However, if I were to tell you I had plenty to be greatful for- you couldn’t get closer to truth. 

Choose gratitude. In all things- every day- choose gratitude. Step back and look at your life from the side of the road- watch your loved ones, friends, family, successes and experiences and be greatful and count them as the blessings they are. 

-Chelsea